I am sharing the following story because I want big breasted women to feel confident about themselves. I want them to not slouch and spoil their postures because you have big breasts and you need to be ashamed of them. Thanks to people in my life that I have been confident about myself. Whenever I said I hate my breasts, I was told to love them and be confident about them.
This happened today in my hostel mess.
I have severe spinal chord swelling (just for the context. this fact is redundant when it comes to the point i am trying to make)
i am not supposed to wear a bra (and even if i was well, it is my choice to wear it or not)
as everyone knows the university hostels all over the country have guidelines about ‘dressing up decently’. we are not allowed to wear shorts and sleeveless clothes etc. ( I am against this policing too, being a sane human). but today all limits of this policing were crossed.
I am fat, have big breasts and am absolutely confident about my body. I have not been wearing a bra very often since the past month.
Today, after the lunch, the Hostel steward asked me to accompany her outside as she had something ‘secretive’ to talk about.
[before I continue, let me tell you that i was dressed ‘decently’ according to the repressive standards of the hostel police.-
I was wearing a baggy tshirt and pajamas. i was not wearing a bra.]
well, this is what she had to say-
” bra nhi pehne kya”
“maam, peeh mein dard hota hai”
“maam bra se bohot bimariyaan hoti hain, dard k saath saath bht restrictive bhi hoti hai…”
“ye sab nhi sunna mujhe, maine koney mein laakr isliye bola tumhe, bra nhi toh chunni pehno”
“magar bra ka concept hi bht naya hai hindustaan mein aur chunni pehenna ya na pehenna meri marzi hai”
” behes nhi krni mujhe. chalti ho toh latakta hai, hilta hai. mess dekhna hai mujhe. yahaan gents hotey hain.”
Before I could say anything else, she walked off.
Bras cause skin damage, reduce blood circulation, aggravate back pain apart from being restrictive, uncomfortable and bordering to being very painful. They cause headaches, stiff backs and shortness of breath. Infact, in india,many women in rural areas still donot wear bras.
which century am I living in that i am being asked to wear a chunni? ( when I am already wearing clothes to cover my breasts and thereby being ‘decent’ according to hollow standards)
Weren’t the universities supposed to be places where girls transformed into confident, sensitive women who were happy with their bodies?
Till when will we keep changing just for the male gaze?
Till when will I have to make sure that my breasts are firmed up and ‘put in place’?
should I care more about my education and food or what the male gaze desires?
i am asking for no liberation or freedom here. it is my right, not as a woman, but more as a human to wear what I want to and this policing will not be tolerated.
Stop sexualising my face, hair, waist, breasts, thighs, arms, skin tone, toe nails…
I will not take it. nor should anyone else.
I will stand up against it. I will eat, walk and breathe without wearing a bra as and when i want.
ajeeb nautanki hai samaaj ki, bra na pehno toh pareshaani aur agar pehno toh strap dikhne se pareshani, nipples pata chalne se pareshani, safed kurte pr kaali bra pehenne se pareshani. Kya hai kya bhayii? We have to care more about visible bra straps than about the next book we are going to read.
let us stand up against this policing.
Bra ka #Pinjratod